Why it can be such a drag asking someone to be a referee (Blog #46)

I know I said last week that for the next couple of weeks my focus will be on how to find the right people to have on your team. But as I was helping a friend out with her resume the topic of referees came up and the way my friend reacted to it, well, I could relate to it, and so I thought you probably could to.

And it went something like this.

Mimoza: “Jenny you might want to update your referees or touch base with them to see if they’re still on board.”

Jenny: “I know I have no reason to feel this way because I’m proud of the work I’ve done, but I always feel awkward asking past employers to be a referee for me. Even though I know I was a good employee. It’s uncomfortable. If I haven’t seen them for a while I need to make a phone call that I wouldn’t otherwise make, make lame small talk and then ask for the favour. Now, I’ve never had someone say no to me, but it still feels awkward. And it’s even worse when I never really enjoyed working for them, but if you don’t have them on your resume then there’s this automatic assumption that there was a problem with you. And you find yourself asking someone you’re not keen on to talk about you for what could be a very important job. It’s demeaning. I know it’s not that bad, but I hate it.”

I don’t know about you, but I could relate exactly to what my friend was talking about when it came down to almost all my jobs except when it involved people I worked with at job #8.

Why? Because at job #8 leadership created an environment for its employees to do their best work and with it came an environment where genuine friendships were developed. And asking a friend for a favour, even if it was the CEO, was simply no bad deal.

Blog Tip #46 – A work culture that creates an environment where asking a favour from the most senior person in the company is done with no hesitation, is priceless

I thought I’d make this clear just in case you were still questioning if work culture is important or not?

What did you think about Blog #46?

How many times have you had to ask someone to be a referee while feeling awkward about it?

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