Want a successful career? What YOU need to do to get the right experience (Blog #17)

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Why finding the right job/company to work for, can make a world of difference

I want to help you build the courage you need to believe in yourself, so that you realise that when it comes to your career, there’s nothing you can’t do.

And to help you do this, I want to guide you along the path of getting the right experience.

So, what do I mean when I say “the right experience”?

I mean when you’re in a job that increases your confidence from 0 to 100 and then some.

I mean when your thinking changes from am I any good at this? To, bring it on!

And don’t assume that this is a natural progression that happens over time. You can work for 30 years and never make it to “bring it on” stage.  If you don’t believe me, simply refer to Blog #14 – 3 Signs your job is doing you no good, where I provide a real life example of this.

But what I want you to know is that, you can work for one year in the right company and get to “bring it on” stage. It’s not the amount of experience you have, it’s the quality.

What I don’t want to happen to you is when you find yourself in a position where your level of self-belief develops at the same rate that a slug moves, if you get what I mean. And you convince yourself that you have it good, because you have a job and it may be a job that you always thought you’d be happy to have and yet you feel so out of place and so unfulfilled at the same time.

I don’t want you to ever accept this as the way that it has to be because it doesn’t.

How I stumbled upon my “bring it on” experience

If you saw my first video last week, you would’ve heard me talk about what I did to get my first full-time job in the world of marketing. Like you and every other business graduate out there, I was focused on getting my first job. Getting experience. I was extremely focused on getting a marketing job, but didn’t think too much about the company as long as to me it seemed OK.

And, maybe that’s what we need to do, initially, to get our foot in the door. And like everyone else out there, I accepted that some experiences were going to be OK and some weren’t and believed that this was a natural process of developing your career.

So, for the next six years I job hopped.

Yes, with every job there was something new to learn whether big or small, but my overall development was steady. No high spikes or career changing moments.

And then job #8 came along. In one year I developed more than in the six previous years combined.

My thinking went from am I good enough to do this job? To, I could take on the world and win.


What was it about job #8 that made me feel this way?

Now, it’s very hard to explain all the reasons why job #8 was simply a kick-ass job and company to work for. I go into quite a bit of detail in Blog #2 – What loving your job looks like (Part 1) – No protection needed!

But in a nutshell, I found a company whose culture was the right fit for me. Where the people believed in what I believed in. And it’s exactly in these types of environments where you thrive. It’s why I thrived. I never felt more in tune with my managers. Never was there a “why the hell are they getting me to do that?” moment, which happened way too common in my other jobs.

I found a place where I belonged.

But what job #8 also opened my eyes to, was how some experiences can damage you. They can make you lose faith in yourself and make you settle for a job that is beneath you simply because you’re surrounded with the wrong people.

I’ve often asked myself the question, “What if I had the job #8 experience earlier?”

What if I had it within the first two to three years of my career? Gaining that level of self-believe at a younger age simply means that I would’ve done more.

Maybe I would’ve done what I’m doing now about five years ago?

Now, this is something that we’ll never know, but my point is, in other to reach your fullest potential you need to get the self-believe up through the right experiences.

Now, we can all take the approach I did and try a number of jobs until you land the right job, if it ever happens, or you could be more mindful of it and try to get there on purpose.

It’s easier to find what you’re looking for when you know what you want.

So, how do you find the people that believe in what you believe in?

You need to know what you believe in first. And there’s no better person to explain this to you than Simon Sinek.

If you don’t know who he is, then it’s time you did.

Simon Sinek describes finding what you believe in as finding your ‘why’. Your purpose. It’s what gets you up in the morning. When everything else goes to shit your ‘why’ is what keeps you moving. It’s what inspires you.

So, what is your why? What is the reason why you do what you do?

Now, if you’re thinking it’s to make money, gain prestige, this is not your why. This can be a result of your ‘why’, but these motives will lead you along the path of one miserable career. Where if someone asks you if you like your job you’ll tell them “Yes”, but then feel sick in the stomach at the thought of going to work the next day. A feeling that over 80% of people out there experience and have accepted as normal¹.

What I hope this blog post inspires you to do

Find your ‘why’.

Now, you can watch Simon Sinek’s TED Talk, which will give you more information about it. But what I really hope you do is his “Why Discovery Course“. It costs US$129 (about AU$170) and takes about 8-10 hours to do.

Trust me, it’s worth it.

I know what you’re thinking.

Have I done it?

Hell yeah!

And I can say that finding your why is one of the most worthwhile moments in your life. Things just become clear. Really clear. What you want to achieve becomes clear and all the steps to get there just start to become clear as well.

Blog #17 Tip:

Want to know how you can get your job application to really stand out and not sound like everyone else’s?

Simon Sinek has a Stand Out in the Job Market: Complete Guide that costs $US32. Yep, only about AU$42. I bought it and read it and thought it was great! If only, I had this 10 years ago.

By following his advice you’ll move away from sounding like a robot… “I have highly developed marketing skills and am fully competent in managing multiple projects at the same time. This combined with my advance organisational skills blah blah blah.”


Check out the guide and you’ll see what I mean. You’ll start to sound like an actual person, demonstrating what you can bring to the table that no one else can with your ‘why’.

So, what is your why? Have you ever really thought about it? What are some of the first thoughts that come to mind? I’d love to hear them.

Don’t waste anymore time. Watch Simon Sineks TED Talk – Start with why here.

If you know someone that will benefit from this blog post – please share it!

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See you next week.


¹ Scott Dinsmore, How to find work you love, TEDTalk, 2012.

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How I got my first job after uni (Video #1)

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Getting that first job after uni can be one hell of a challenge. When I was going through it all, all I kept on hearing was that, “We need someone with experience.”


Boy, was it frustrating!

I also found it frustrating when others would say to me, “Just get a job, it doesn’t matter if it’s not marketing. Maybe you can gradually work your way into the marketing department?”

Hello. What was all those years at uni for??

Despite the fact that months were passing and I was still unemployed, I refused to give up on finding a marketing job, despite what others around me were saying.

So when the conventional approach of looking at job seeker sites and applying wasn’t working for me, I tried something different.  To find out what, watch my video.

P.S. This was a couple of years before social media hit the scene.

Speak to you soon.




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Why friendships at work matter – what every beginner should know (Blog #16)

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This week I want to talk to you about friendships at work and why they matter.

And just as a reminder. Don’t forget that every week I’ll be sharing with you something that I wish someone told me 10 years ago about the corporate world.


So this process of you starting to believe in yourself gets put on steroids and you become a leader that will actually make a difference in the workplace.

Trust me there in need big time!

Why are friendships at work important?

You’re probably thinking if I do my work and listen to my manager, how can the people around me affect me? Right?

Or, you’re even thinking… working with friends, god no! That’s not a good idea. What a way to ruin a friendship.

Well, first of all, I’m not talking about your school friends here or friends you use to run amok with. I’m talking about the people who you meet at work. Their adults. Mature adults (hopefully). Developing friendships with them.

Now, I’m assuming that you’re either completing a business degree or have completed one. Then you’ve probably done your fair share of group assignments.

Some would’ve gone really well and some would’ve been a nightmare because the people in your group didn’t pull their weight. Didn’t produce good work or were just really difficult to work with. And by the time you finished your assignment you were happy to see the back of them, hoping that you never have anything to do with them again.

I know. I’ve been there. It can be horrible.

Now it’s one thing having to put up with that type of experience with one or two uni assignments, but imagine if you had it every day you were at work.

And if you don’t have much experience in the workforce you’re probably thinking surely it can’t get that bad? People at work get paid so they have to behave decently.

Well, I’m here to tell you that the fact that people get paid to be at work doesn’t prevent a toxic environment from developing.

What do I mean by toxic environment?

When the majority of people there (about 99.9%) hate their job. Avoid communicating as much as possible and will only do the bare minimum that will cover their butts. And won’t care about the job after it leaves their hands.

Team work also doesn’t mean much to people in this type of environment. Although, they may acknowledge that they’re in a team, there is no trust, there is no looking out for each other. It’s all about taking care of your own butt. And as a result the simplest things can be made unnecessarily agonising.

And the sad thing is that you’ll find that the vast majority of workplaces are like this. Live your Legend’s Scott Dinsmore’s research proved that more than 80% of people out there hate their job. You can check out his TedTalk here.

And most people, managers included, don’t know any different. According to them it’s normal.

Hence, why I say to you that relying on your manager may not get you far.

But I don’t want you to ever accept this as normal. You’ll end up being one really shitty person to work with, becoming as miserable as many people I’ve seen in the corporate world.

How group work at uni taught me the importance of work friendships

During my Masters degree in marketing I completed almost all of my group assignments with the same two friends. We met in our first subject and worked in our first group assignment together. It was amazing how with every assignment we worked on we got better at working as a group. We leveraged off of each other’s strengths, helped each other deal with our weaknesses and leaned on each other for support during those long uni days and those yucky exam weeks.

In the process we began good friends that trusted and respected each other, which helped to make those never-ending uni assignments easier to get done. It wasn’t that bad doing it together with teammates who cooperated. As with trust and respect comes cooperation. This is what gets the job done, easily and effectively.

And when it’s this type of team you’re working in, it’s amazing how stress doesn’t seem to exist.


Because you’re in a team that’s got your back.

What most managers aren’t getting?

Trust and respect are not instructions that you can give people to follow.


Because these are feelings that develop over time, which is exactly what I experienced with the group I worked together with at uni.

A manager saying that we need to respect and trust each other does nothing. In fact, there is almost no point in saying this.

Actions speak louder than words.

The focus needs to be placed on developing genuine relationships (friendships) among colleagues.


Follow the world of start-ups. It’s people in this area that seem to be getting it right.

When they talk about having weekly drinks, lunches and yoga classes together, it’s all with the aim of their employees getting closer.


When you look forward to seeing your colleagues at work every day, it’s funny how much more enjoyable work can be. And the results for the company only go up.

And if you think being friends with the people you work with is impossible than simply read my blog post #4 – I don’t need to be friends with the people I work with.” Wrong! Yes, you do! This is where I talk about my job #8 and how I can truly say we were all friends and I compare it to job #9 where this wasn’t the case.

Blog #16 Tip:

To really dive deep into what I’m talking about in this blog post check out Simon Sinek’s TedTalk – How great leaders inspire action. It’s about 18 mins long. Trust me, you listen to this and you’re already ahead of most managers I’ve come across.

His book called “Leaders eat last” is also one of the best reads I’ve come across in regards to this topic. If you’re strapped for time focus on chapter 20 – Leadership Lesson 4: Friends matter.

What are your thoughts?
Have you experienced firsthand what I’m talking about?
Tell me about your experience.
Have you enjoyed working in groups? Or, have you found it quite difficult?

If you know someone that will benefit from this blog post – please share it.

Let me share with you all the things I wish someone told me 10 years ago about the corporate world – subscribe to 10 Years and 9 Jobs today.

See you next week.


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